I’m so happy to find your site.

Now I am starting out and like another commenter asked “how do you find someone who wants this”. And isn’t it like that with safety measures in general? In fact some of the same women who would agree with what I just said would ALSO say they really don’t like pain, but want it for the other reasons. You may want to object and say it would be easier to respect him if only he would _______. By having this, men have no real power, because they can only discipline her as long as she wants it. Women have the freedom to pursue just about any vocation they desire. We do believe in Christ. Say that in a room full of real lifestylers and see what they say. What are the primary uses of discipline in marriage? I said, Kind of like that, but more like what you do with an adult. In our household, we have no safe word- we don’t need it. I’ve searched for this my entire life. I am single and always swore I’d never get married because I didn’t want the relationship like I’ve seen with so many of my friends. It also seems to encourage the use of more extreme forms of punishment, as if the level must always be increased. It clearly indicates women should SUBMIT and obey. It is corrective discipline by the person who cares for your good and is responsible for you. That means I explained discipline to her before marriage and while we were still going out. You’re a very good writer, and obviously know your subject deeply. This power vacuum and lack of leadership lead me to all kinds of feelings as described above: I became snarky, bratty, and so on. Love Jesus first and with everything, then love your husband second. Our relationship was struggling. Realize it can take him time to grasp what discipline is all about. IMHO, it feels fake. Would he consider me not valuable anymore because I renounced from “modern” equality? You can let him know your need to be lead firmly, and to be punished for wrongs. (It just comes in flashes now.

He runs the household for its greater good and is supposed to be wise. He really believed in the 50 / 50 share. And if it took such extreme measures, then so be it. Lifestyle blog of Marie A. Rebelle, submissive by nature, sharing erotic images, and writing about life, mental and physical health, books, music, diet and yes... sex too. Marriage Like Football? Always get answers from reliable, trustworthy sources such as authority sites, product reviews, word-of-mouth, sites that offer buying guides, online consumer forums, and more sources that reliably offer such information. ( Log Out /  I had a mega-post all written. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. We have agreed that every family should have ONE head of household. Carolyne, thank you for your comment – that’s why I opened my blog, to inspire people like you ! Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” (Philippians 2:5-11).